Monica Kough has known both the sorrows and joys of motherhood.
Her sorrow came from losing her firstborn son, Ty, in her 23rd week of pregnancy four years ago.
Her joy came from celebrating her son Eli's second birthday on April 1 of this year.
When Kough and her husband, Danny Kaea, were expecting Ty in 2010, she remembers it as a "very exciting" time.
However, when they lost their son, she says, "You leave the hospital without your baby and you ask, 'Where do I turn? Where do I go next?'"
Immediate support came from family, friends and her colleagues at ARM Inc., where she is director of learning and development.
Still, Kough knew she needed something more, and she found it with the March of Dimes.
"I met with them a few weeks after coming home and they provided me with resources to turn to," she says.
"You connect with other moms who have been through the same thing. Some had lost a child, and some had a child that survived. It's hard as you think, 'How come theirs survived and mine didn't?'
"It was a great support system to flush through all the questions I had, to understand I wasn't alone and to get some clarity and answers."
The March of Dimes also provided a way for Kough to achieve something she very much wanted.
"My goal was to turn a traumatic loss in my life into something more positive and to keep Ty alive by honoring him," she says.
In 2011 Kough participated in the annual March for Babies Silicon Valley, and her company sponsored Team ARM.
She and Kaea have participated each year since, and will do so again on April 26 with Team ARM and Team Eli from El Camino Hospital.
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